A few days back, maya & I were watching some movie on tv. Noah was asleep. Since its diwali hols, sleeping deadlines for maya are a lil relaxed.

Among the ads that play again & again in between the numerous breaks, there was one on sanitary napkins...for all nite protection....stayfree i think. the girls in the ad are shown sleeping in various positions. one in a running position, one like a dancer & one goes round & round like a clock needle. but during their periods they all are in a 'savdhan' position. etc. etc.

So i just casually commented to maya...that 'u r like that clock needle'. She too goes all round the bed in her sleep at nite. So she tells me....even i'll wear stayfree all nite. then i'll too stop moving around & bcome 'savdhan'. I just stifled my laughter.

It was so damn funny coming from her....a 5 year old....i wonder what she thinks the product is. Maya's dad & i just cudnt stop laughing when he came home & i told hime about this. :-D

- maya ki mummy

Have just begun working from home. And am struggling. I had a lady to help with the baby & dusting, running around etc. But she decided to leave a month back...just like that. So I'm hunting again. Not that she was much help with Noah, since he'd firmly decided he'd stick only to his mom. But at least she was there to do other odd jobs.

Even now, Noah just doesn't go to anybody else. :-( 10 mins is the maximum he'll stay without seeing my face...even with his father. That really puts me in a tight spot. Having a bath too has to be really quick. Thankfully after 8 pm he falls asleep & sleeps thru the nite. So I'm free then. But thruout the day he has to be continuously entertained...spoken to, fed, put to sleep....by me. So I am too tired by the end of the day to really do too much.

So the hunt goes on....am hoping I'll find help soon. & hopefully it will be someone who Noah will get along with. Am keeping my fingers crossed. :-)

- maya ki mummy

Wanted to write earlier. But just couldn't find the time.

Baby was born on 30th july at around 10 pm. 9 days early. We're calling him Noah. On surfing the net we found that Noah's a hebrew name - means 'peaceful.' Well..on some days he's anything but that.

In the past one & a half months he's been through bouts of colic in the evenings. He would then cry & cry & cry. :-( At one point, everybody at home would anxiously start looking at the clock after 5.30 pm. Thankfully, he's a lil better now.

Maya is doing well. She's slipped into the elder sister role with ease. All my apprehension about her being jealous was uncalled for. Yes, she's a lil too enthusiastic sometimes, keeps kissing Noah over & over again & most of the time too noisy in her games.especially when he's just fallen asleep. But otherwise, she's busy with school & play & loving her baby brother.

So far, so good.

- maya ki mummy.

Have this list of things I want cleaned, bought, put up (curtain rods, photo frames), fixed (loose knobs, a fan which isn't fast enuff). I guess this is the nesting instinct that I was told about. This is a term I'd never heard of before & after 2 friends asked me whether I was doing all that I looked it up.

FYI...

'Around the fifth month of pregnancy, the "nesting" instinct can set in. This is an uncontrollable urge to clean one's house brought on by a desire to prepare a nest for the new baby, to tie up loose ends of old projects and to organize your world.

Nesting brings about some unique and seemingly irrational behaviors in pregnant women and all of them experience it differently. Women have reported throwing away perfectly good sheets and towels because they felt the strong need to have "brand new, clean" sheets and towels in their home. They have also reported doing things like taking apart the knobs on kitchen cupboards, just so they could disinfect the screws attached to the knobs.' Read more...

Perhaps it's coz I'm thinking too much. Maya's time was so much easier. Even after I went on leave from work, I was out shopping, watching movies & generally...'not thinking'. Maya was born exactly a week after I went on leave. 12 days early.

I still remember...we'd seen Spiderman 1 just the day before, in the theatre. That too sitting in the front row since those were the only tickets we got. We still joke about it...the proximity to the screen & the impact prompted maya to come out sooner. This time when we watched spiderman 3, albeit a few months back...the same thought crossed my mind....what if? LOL.

So I guess that's what I'll do...not think....just go back to my cleaning, tidying....

-maya ki mummy

'It's a baby girl' she replied morosely.

'I know.' I said, a little shocked at her reaction.

'No.everyone at home wanted a boy.' Her first child is a girl.

'Girl or boy.what difference does it make. The baby should be healthy. That's all that matters.' I said.

'No.here at home it does make a difference. People keep names otherwise.'

I told her that I would love it if I had 2 girls. Am actually hoping that my 2nd baby will be a girl. All this so that she would feel a wee bit better.

But I don't really think it would've helped much. Later when I met her mother-in-law & congratulated her I met with the same reaction, 'Ladki hui hai.'

Yeah, yeah.I know all this 'wanting a boy to carry on the family name' etc. still exists.but actually hearing someone speak about this, feel so sad because they had a girl child was..depressing.

Very, very depressing indeed.

-maya ki mummy

I also spoke with other mommies who were going thru a similar phase & it definitely made me feel better.

Maya too is behaving herself - for now. School's begun so she's got other things to occupy her like, 'my teacher said my drawing is bad' or 'ritika ne mujhe maara' & 'I can't write properly' etc. J

I'm big & fat now..a little more than a month for D day. People at wrk tease me..u sure its august? U look like u gonna hav a baby anytime now.

Random ramblings

Advantages of being pregnant.

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  I am usually offered a seat in the local train


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  I can eat sweets without too much guilt. (wot the heck? I'm fat anyway ;-)

Disadvantages

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  It's extremely difficult to wear sandal straps, tie shoe laces.


• Sleeptime is uncomfortable. U can only sleep on ur side as your stomach grows bigger.


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  What do I wear? BIG question.


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  U don't walk, u waddle.

What irritates me sometimes

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  People keep asking when I'm goin on leave.


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  Everybody keeps saying I'll have a baby boy.


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  People assume I want a baby boy.

Will add more as & when i think of them....

- maya ki mummy

I just learnt from my sis-in-law & mom that maya has been, since a while, troubling her 1 ½ year old baby cousin brother. Like pushing him, kicking him & yesterday asking if he was dead when he stopped his breath while crying (coz she kicked him). Tho I don't know how much she understands what 'dead' is.

And on prodding, coaxing, my sis-in-law found out that Maya feels nobody loves her anymore. They all love her lil cousin.

And I dunno how to handle it. I'm hurt.

Maya is very fond of her lil cousin brother. They live close to our house & maya spends most of her time there when I'm away at work. He too is forever asking for her.maya, maya (one of the few words he can speak). She misses him a lot when he goes to his nani's home some weekends.

Of course their games aren't without fights.but apparently, off late, her reactions to any attention he gets have become a tad too violent.

Maya is probably feeling the lack of attention. Tho my sis-in-law cares for her equally, the fact is that, the lil boy is, well..much littler than maya is. & he has to be looked after, fed etc.

I dread to think that after my 2^nd baby, maya's own sibling, comes in august, what the situation will be. Right now maya shuttles between her granma's home where her cousin is & ours. The new baby will be at home all the time.

Tho so far maya has shown interest, happiness & love where the new arrival is concerned.it might not be the case once the baby comes.

I know I can't afford to lose my temper here (which is very very difficult for me). I have to be at my patient best & let maya know that I love her no matter what. & so does her aunt & everybody else.

But....I'm just feeling so disturbed & helpless..

Today is just not one of my happy days.

-maya ki mummy

She was a new mom; her baby was just over four months old.

Among other things, we talked about what being a mommy felt like.

And here's what I found most surprising.

My sister wanted to change.

She's passionate about food and it shows.

She's full of energy about certain things, and lazy can't even begin to describe how she is about others.

She's the baby of the family, and demands pampering as her due.

And, now that she was a mom, she wanted to change. She wanted to lose weight. She wanted to be kind, considerate and super-efficient all the time. She wanted to be the perfect human being, an inspiration to her daughter. She wanted to be the perfect mom.

It was a bit scary; I tried gently telling her it's not possible but she was determined.

Today, thankfully, she's back to what she was. A great mom. And a nice human being. And a bratty younger sister

-- Mom at work

She said everyone spoke of Abhishek Bachchan as Amitabh Bachchan's son. No one ever called him Jaya Bachchan's son. She was most irritated that her role, and it is a big one, had never been acknowledged.

That struck a huge chord. As the mother of a four-year-old, I can already feel the pinch.

I'd really like to know:

Why is the identification with one parent, the father, so vital?

Why is the father's signature vital on documents? Why won't the mother's signature, or either parent's signature, do?

Why does the child always have to take the father's surname?

Especially when, in most cases, it is mother -- working or otherwise -- who plays a major role in the nurturing of the child?

I'm not saying the father is not important, but why negate the role of one parent -- and that too the parent who, I believe, has a much bigger role to play in the child's life?